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27-05-2020 05:15 PM
27-05-2020 05:15 PM
Relationship under stress
Hi. I guess I just need someone to relate with. I'm in my late 30s and have a wonderful partner and 2 young toddlers. I've struggled with depression for about 10 years, been on medication on and off and counselling as well. My partner and I have been together for just over four years, and he has been very supportive of me. But lately, it has been harder for us to talk to each other. We're a military family, but that's not the issue.
For a long time I've been a tad of a recluse. I have a hard time going out on my own, never feeling safe outside the confines of my own house. I can go shopping for groceries and necessities but if you tell me to go out for a walk on my own and I could end up with a mini episode of a panic attack. This is one of the things that my partner struggles to come to terms with. He's very outdoorsy and feels like we can't share experiences because I don't want to go out. Going outside is exhausting to me both mentally and emotionally. And this is the tip of the ice berg. He doesn't understand, and I have a hard time explaining how it looks like in my head. He's tired, and doesn't want to hear it anymore. He says I'm all talk and no action... I feel like I just can't talk to him anymore.
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27-05-2020 08:17 PM
27-05-2020 08:17 PM
Re: Relationship under stress
Hi @bonsai_281 and welcome to the forums.
My husband was in the military too.
It is hard to explain to our partners what is going through our heads. I have social anxiety too and struggle to leave the house for non essential things also.
Do you have any professional supports in place for you?
I find that sometimes it is helpful for my husband to come to my psychologist sessions occasionally. Sometimes the psych can explain what is going on inside my head better then I can!
PLease keep reaching out here for support. If you would like to tag anyone just put a @ in front of their name like I did with yours.
Take care of you 💖
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27-05-2020 10:02 PM
27-05-2020 10:02 PM
Re: Relationship under stress
Thanks @Snowie. Yes we have been to counselling together and it did help. But he says he's tired of trying so hard to help me, and I don't seem to want to do anything to change. I'd mentioned that it comes in waves and I don't know how to deal with it.
We moved for a new posting in January, and with COVID I find it even harder to leave the house! My partner doesn't really understand why I find it so hard to go for a walk. I have a new psychologist I'm going to see but my closest friends are back 'home'. I don't make friends easily anymore, it's too exhausting. Digital forums seem easier... so thank you for reaching out 😊
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28-05-2020 06:27 PM
28-05-2020 06:27 PM
Re: Relationship under stress
oh @bonsai_281 I completly understand. I have not got many friends in real life and digital life is much eaasier.
I think it makes it easier too when you can relate to the other person.
How was your day today?
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28-05-2020 10:09 PM
28-05-2020 10:09 PM