Hi @BlueBay ,

I definitely understand what you mean. I don't think 'accept' means to grin and bear it. In no way should abuse be 'accepted' or made acceptable.

There is a difference between cognitively understanding what it is to accept something, and actually accepting something is.

Anyway, if it is becoming tangled in your mind, perhaps it's time to park it, and consider it later. I don't think it will do you any good to stew over something that is currently difficult to come to terms with. Have a go at finding some breathing space between what is going on in your mind and what you are physically doing. In that way, you won't be so caught up in the confusion.

Take care,

BPDSurvivor